If I defriend you on facebook, it doesn’t mean that:
- I am fucking you over. My facebook account, my decision who I associate with there. Unless we have some kind of contract, you can’t claim I am harming you.
- I am “blackballing” you from my rapidly shrinking list of activism projects. For example, I have always said that everyone is welcome to participate in Agora I/O. I mean it. Just because I don’t personally invite you doesn’t mean you’re not welcome. Everyone is welcome and you don’t need an invite to participate. You don’t even have to talk to me to get on the schedule.
- I don’t respect you. Maybe I just don’t see us as compatible individuals.
- I am obligated to formally notify you of it. Please.
- I want you to do something or change your behavior. It is not an attempt to manipulate you. If I want you to do something, I will tell you straight up.
- I don’t value any pleasant interactions we have had in the past.
- I don’t wish to have anything to do with you outside of Facebook or in real life.
- I owe you an explanation. I just don’t
- You are my enemy. I don’t consider anyone to be my enemy.
But if you want to be upset about it and excoriate me, that’s certainly your right.
I look to associate with people who are principled, courageous, doers, have a big heart and/or care about me. If you don’t meet one or more of those standards and/or, worse, show yourself to be a hypocrite, a coward and/or a liar, I may want to put some distance between us at any time. Don’t be surprised. It’s simply a fact of a life. It’s part of how the market works. Maybe we weren’t even friends in the first place.